Public School
When people find out we Home School our children, invariably, the question of why we chose to do such a thing dominates the conversation. I do know that people usually feel quite passionate about the topic.
Those who are against it will usually justify their stance by reasoning that Public School was good enough for them and will therefore be good enough for their children. They’ll bring up the issue of “Socialization” and question how your kids can make it in the “Cruel World” if you don’t expose them to it.
Some people are “On the Line” and genuinely interested. They’ll pepper me with questions regarding the logistics of how to educate your children at home. I usually get the sense that it’s something they would really like to do but are intimidated and unsure of their own ability to teach their children.
Now, with that said; I’m not going to sit here and proclaim that Home Schooling is the way to go. It’s definitely not for everyone. It requires a huge sacrifice of time, energy & money. I can only give you some of my thoughts as to why we choose to keep our children home.
The United States of America spends more money on “Education” than any other nation in the world. One would think with that resource behind us, we would see some wonderful results. On the contrary, our student’s scores are mediocre at best compared to the rest of the “civilized world” and falling with each passing year. Every Politician or Teachers Union Representative I’ve ever listened to sounds like a broken record espousing the solution to be more money… fund the schools better. If money is the problem, why are countries all over the world outperforming our students? No, I wish the solution were as simple as money.
I’m certainly no Professor of Education as evidenced by my grammar, spelling, punctuation, and sentence structure. I have however, been to Public Elementary School recently, and I’ve sat through several days observing classroom teaching. What I saw was a couple of fundamental changes in the classroom environment from my own school days.
First, and most importantly, I saw way too many children who lacked respect for the authority figure, i.e. the “Teacher”. I blame this on the parents mostly. When I was sent to school, the Teacher was “Almighty” and I had a genuine fear of stepping out of line. I knew if my parents found out I was in a world of hurt. Children need to go to school with the proper moral foundation. This is the parent’s responsibility.
Second, I saw no real discipline being enforced. There was certainly a lot of admonishing and threatening being done by the “Authority” figure, but most of the kids knew it was all talk and paid little attention. I blame this on our Nation as a whole. We’ve tied the hands of our educators behind their backs and allow them to enforce no real discipline. When I was sent to school, stepping too far out of line would result in the Teacher yanking me up by the small hairs on my neck and marching me to the Principals office where I’d get a sound paddling. Then, my Mom would be telephoned and that’s when the real punishment would go into effect. In today’s world, when the School calls home to inform the parents of their Child’s poor behavior, many parents will go into “Defense” mode and start questioning what the School did wrong to cause their Child to behave in such a way. If the parents and educators are not on the same page, it’s a recipe for disaster (IMHO).
Lastly, and perhaps the “trigger” that swayed me into the direction of Home Schooling was this new “Feel Good” psycho nonsense teaching method schools are adopting. There are no Winners or Losers, no pass or fail. It’s more important that the children have “self esteem” and feel good about their learning experience. All the children on the team get the Trophy… Not the best of the best. How does this help them to strive to be better? How does this prepare them for the “Real World”?
This issue is just way too complex. I could write a book on all my opinions regarding it. Instead, I’ll just leave you with a short vid that disgusts me on so many levels.







Can you imagine doing that when we went to school??
I was also in the system of discipline way back then I remember taking my wacks just so I would not have a detention because I didnt want to go home and tell my parents I had screwed up that day!!! I am all for punishment in school and out of school and I am also a very proud homeschooling Mom of two and I have had them in school and out of school and I feel my Children deserve better than what a public school has to offer and just so everyone knows there are gym classes for homeschoolers and tons of clubs for socialization and my children know as much about real life as everyone else. I am also very passionate about my childrens education and my kids are actually getting a real education and not being passed along because little Johnney can’t spell but we can’t hold him back because he might not like himself but lets let him look like an asshole in the public because he can’t write his name or add 2+2!! Please what a crock!!!!! Homeschooling is the way to go…
Comment by Stephanie — April 9, 2006 @ 4:41 pm
I suppose I have written more than a few blogs on this subject, and usually with a bit of a tone towards this item of socialization. Anyone who meets my homeschooled children can’t believe how open, articulate, personable, and bright they are. Then I go and read newspaper articles and see on “Oprah” the latest fashion of Rainbow Parties (don’t know if you want me to explain what they are here), and I think, gee, if that’s socialization, I think I will just keep my children as “misfits”.
Comment by Xerraire — April 9, 2006 @ 8:42 pm
Rainbow parties, If I remember correctly, a “trend” with the youth that involves many different colors of lipstick, oral sex and bragging rights for the boys who can obtain the most colors? Does that sum it up in a semi-tactful way?
Comment by Night Owl — April 9, 2006 @ 11:05 pm
I have not heard of the rainbow thing here in FL it is rubber bracelets that are a ton of colors for how far you will go and how far you have gone!!! Another reason I am glad I homeschool…I dont want my daughter mixed up in any of that I love her to much to throw her too the wolves.
Comment by Stephanie — April 10, 2006 @ 7:39 am
Mike, yes. Wasn’t sure what to say, or how far to go, hehe
oh, and lets not forget Sex in school itself, lots of that going on » http://www.xerraireart.com/blog/index.php?p=219
Comment by Xerraire — April 10, 2006 @ 11:27 am
I’ve seen those rubber bracelets! I thought they were for charity or to support some worthwhile cause! I feel naive now!
Comment by Night Owl — April 10, 2006 @ 9:19 pm