The question for today is why are girls attracted to “bad boys”? No doubt the question has been posed quite regularly throughout history by many a confused man. It’s certainly a fact that men are puzzled by a woman’s thought process in the first place, yet this single phenomenon seems to stick out above the rest.
I have my own “Darwinian” theory regarding this mystery for which one has to look at the animal kingdom. Typically, amongst animals, the female of the species will look to mate with the “Strongest” most “Vibrant” male she can find. This increases the chance that their offspring will be robust and hearty, a simple matter of genetics. You will find that among certain species, the males will develop bright colors, adapt unique mating calls and perform complex dances in an attempt to attract a partner. Generally, they are not very picky who they pair up with.
One could easily compare the above directly to us humans. Girls seem to fall for the “bad boys” because they perceive them to be the “strongest” and most “Vibrant” of their selection. Furthermore, one can not deny that all the guys are running around trying to buff up their physique, wear the kewlest of fashion & be a slick dancer in hopes of landing that “hottie” they’ve been pursuing.
What I find ironic about the whole mess is that things have changed so much in the last 100 years, the exact opposite is what should now be applicable, yet it isn’t.
Confused yet? Allow me to explain…
Mother Nature has women running around trying to attract the biggest, baddest boy on the block when statistically; he’s the one most likely to be a “loser” in today’s world. With very few exceptions, it’s brains and not brawn that makes a guy successful today.
A few hundred years ago, the “Bad Boy” eventually became Chief of the tribe, fought glorious battles with the enemy village down the road, and had a harem of women at his beck and call. Bring that same fella to present day U.S.A. and he’s most likely flipping patties at Al’s Burger Barn. Meanwhile, the pimple-faced Chess Club nerd goes on to become C.E.O. of a multi-Billion dollar Corporation.
So here is what I don’t understand. For thousands of years, Mother Nature had a system in place to make sure that human females procreated with the “pick of the litter”, the one most able to provide for and protect her offspring. Why hasn’t she adapted to the new world order?
OH you were serious!! I’ll tell you reasons why girls go for the ‘bad’ boys:
First: usually their bad-boy behavior makes a bad-boy mysterious/dangerous look(AKA “hot”), and usually everything else that a girl likes in today’s “bad boy”…
Second: It really does depend on what bad guy your talking about, I mean in Harry Potter’s school, Malfoy would most likely be known as the “bad boy” and like I said ‘First’ that makes girls like him because they would label him as “hot”.
Third: The next type of bad guy is..hmm..well lets talk about the movie “Spiderman” Do you REALLY think girls are going to be all over ‘The green goblin’ or ‘Doc oc’? I don’t think so…they’re going to go for the “good guy” Peter Parker…I mean Mary Jane did
Fourth: When it all comes down, it doesn’t matter if the guy is a ‘bad boy’ or a ‘good guy’ girls WILL go after the most good-looking. And that’s that. These stupid girls today don’t care about personality or anything. LOOKS is all that counts! (the fact that most “bad guys” in movies and stuff are usually the most good looking doesn’t matter, I proved that theory down the drain with “Spiderman” (1 and 2)
But you’ve got to face it that YOU GUYS have your own problems about which girls they get attracted too, AND I am NOT going to get into that subject.
Wow its amazing how bored you can get when your sick
-Laura
Comment by Laura — September 29, 2005 @ 12:56 pm
This is a difficult thread apparently.
I commented once and it didn’t show up,
Laura commented once and it shows up twice.
Trying again.
Mike, you sure might have opened a can of worms with this one! I hope you don’t mind my frank diction.
First of all, I’d like to say that a discussion like this usually leads to generalities. I don’t normally like to speak in generalities. But for the sake of making a few points, I will.
Having a bit of experience with “bad boys”, I think Mike, that it is true what you say. We girls tend to gravitate towards that mysterious, dark and usually silent type.
Since I don’t like to put myself into any category, and never did, I remember dating all types. The first criteria for the dates was FUN. Would they be a FUN date. Would I laugh and have a memorable time? More than my parents would have liked, were “bad boys”. Some they understood the attraction, they saw that they were indeed FUN, even though they were rather ROTTEN.
Another idea young women have is they would like to MARRY these fellas, thinking through some wiles we possess, we will CHANGE them, and mold them into good husbands and fathers. This is a wrong presumption to marriage, but it sometimes happens.
But here is something to think about, Mike, and countering your complaint. My mom always told me growing up, “Don’t be promiscuous, boys DATE those kind of girls, but they don’t MARRY them.” I took that as gospel. How many times did we hear as girls that boys won’t marry and commit as long as they were ‘getting it’ for free. (Throw in references to cows and milk there, somehow that fits in).
But did boys drool and fall over themselves, for the slutty types? Yes, I saw that they did.
So, it seems to go both ways.
Later on it seems to go both ways too.
Girls sometimes marry those bad boys wanting to change them into something else.
Fellas seem to marry these virginal types, all the while wishing openly or secretly for something else.
These days, the lines do not seem so drawn, it all seems less defined to me.
Cute topic.
Comment by Xerraire — September 29, 2005 @ 1:27 pm
Do Girls Dig “Bad Boys?”
Mike Shepherd thinks he knows the answer (yes). Without fussing over details (like whether girls really are attracted to so-called bad boys) Shepherd jumps right to his theory of why they’re attracted. He writes I have my own “Darwinianâ€? theory…
Trackback by jeff hester.net — September 29, 2005 @ 2:37 pm
Laura…
First: I certainly agree that SOME women find that mysterious/dangerous persona a “Bad Boy” exudes appealing.
Second: Draco Malfoy…
Book 1 : Arrogant Snob.
Book 2 : Calls Hermoine a “Filthy Mudblood” which is today’s equivalent of calling a black person a “Dirty N*gg*r”.
Book 3 : Derives pleasure from the fact he was able to fein an injury causing the Hippogriff to be sentenced to a beheading.
Book 4 : Tells lies with impunity to the nosey reporter in order to have negative stories printed about Harry.
Book 5 : Takes sides with the evil Professor Umbridge against the rest of the school.
Book 6 : Attempts murder 3 times minimum.
Explain to me, besides the fact that you might find the actor “hot”, what it is you find appealing about Draco Malfoy’s character?
Third: I don’t think one could consider “The Green Goblin” or “Doc Oc” as “Bad Boys”. I think a more accurate label for them would be “Villains” and as such, they are obligated to be ugly.
Fourth: Your own words above…”These stupid girls today don’t care about personality or anything. LOOKS is all that counts!”
Draco Malfoy’s character is that of a pompous, cheating, manipulating, underhanded bully. Again, I ask… what do you find attractive about him?
Finally: You’re correct. Us “guys” have our very own set of silly baggage… but that is a blog for another day!
You made some really good points Laura!
Comment by Night Owl — September 29, 2005 @ 7:45 pm
Barb…
As usual, you made articulate, well thought-out points on the subject matter that I tend to agree with. I would however, like to take this opportunity to clarify that I in no way intended you or anyone else to construe this post in a manner that would suggest I’m stereotyping the entire female population. This thread started as I’m sure you’re aware, as innocent “razzing” between myself and Laura regarding her unwillingness to date my “Mamma’s Boy” of a Son.
Apparently, your buddy Jeff took the post at face value and blogged it himself! (Chuckle) While I do feel that what I posted has a bit of “merit”, I’m not so naive as to not realize that its complexities outweigh my abilities of rational thought.
It was just one of those questions that’s been around forever. You made a wonderful parallel in your last paragraph when you said… “Fellas seem to marry these virginal types, all the while wishing openly or secretly for something else.” While you certainly can’t stereotype the entire male population with that “stigma”, the statement does have merit! Why that may or may not be, we can hypothesize from now until the end of time. Why? because it’s fun!
Comment by Night Owl — September 29, 2005 @ 8:34 pm
First I never said I liked Draco Malfoy, for goodness’ sake HE’S A ACTOR. Plus I don’t think Draco Malfoy’s “hot” I think Tom Felton is
Comment by Laura — September 29, 2005 @ 11:10 pm
I’m sure Tom Felton is a really nice young man worthy of your affections Laura. I was going to seriously worry about ya if you actually found the character he portrays attractive.
Comment by Night Owl — September 29, 2005 @ 11:21 pm
Personally, I don’t find Bad Boys the least bit interesting and never did. HOWEVER, a nice Harvard graduate with a six figure income would be fine with me!
Comment by Phyd — September 30, 2005 @ 6:15 pm
GOLD-DIGGER!!!
Cackle! Cackle! Cackle!
Comment by Night Owl — September 30, 2005 @ 6:22 pm
Bad Boys break your heart. Rich boys will buy you a Porsche. I’ll take the rich guy and the car.
Comment by Phyd — October 1, 2005 @ 12:04 am
Where can one find this rich guy?
hehe
Comment by Xerraire — October 1, 2005 @ 2:24 pm
Barb -
You’re married to a CVS pharmacist and you want to know where to find a rich guy? You’ve already done that!
Phyd
Comment by phyd — October 1, 2005 @ 7:57 pm
Phyllis, Phyllis, Phyllis… I think you must have some bad info. First, how did you ever get the impression that Barb was married to a CVS Pharmacist? Simply not the case.
Second… even if she was, I doubt that income would be considered “Rich”. Perhaps upper middle class… but certainly not rich.
Comment by Night Owl — October 1, 2005 @ 8:20 pm
No.NO. No. You Guys Got it all wrong! The reason why girls go for the “BAD BOYS” is because of the music. And T.V. has a great influence over our minds. For example, “FLAVOR OF LOVE,” “ELIMADATE,” “LA GUNA NIGUEL,” “A RICH BACHELOR LOOKING FOR A WIFE,” just to name a few. Another example of why the bad boy image is so popular,is because of the music that we here over our sound waves. Girls just wanna have fun!!! Bad Boys are dare devils, they like to have fun. They are ruff around the edges. Unfortunately, the clean cut, business smart guys with their head on their shoulders are currently out of date. Just bare in mind this “BAD BOY” era is just a fad. It will play out in due time. The good guys will be back on the map shortly. So all you “GOOD GUYS” out there hold your heads up, your time is approaching shortly!!!
Comment by Monique — October 6, 2006 @ 8:29 am